Life and Living Life - II

Yesterday, it was a beautiful sunny summer evening. An evening like this is considered as being a heaven in Europe. As i was coming back from the market, i see a Dutch woman crying just next to the street.

She looked decent and hence i made an effort to see why is she is crying..As i reach close to her in order to console her, she did not tell me anything. Probably because i was speaking English and she had little knowledge of the language, or at that moment you need someone close to you to listen to you...But there was no one whom she could confide in. She kissed my hand many time as a gesture of Thanks...but i felt if i could help...There is so much to be required to be done in this society, so much missing that i feel helpless many times..

I see such scenes most of the time when i meet local belgian, especially white community here in Brussles...girls are lonely and the man is sad why they cannot find their soulmate...

I never in my dreams had thought that such problems could exist in the most developed countries of the world. No, its not the Europe i used to dream about....

So much loneliness...and the reason for that, too much independence in thoughts and minds of people...

When a person becomes too independent, strong and feel that he can manage life himself and should not depend on others for happiness, the ability to adjust is weakened. We become prone to being hurt by the people who we consider close and dear to us, because any small thing that we may do knowingly/unknowingly can hurt them and can result in a relationship to be broken.

The western european people are taught to be strong and manage your life yourself and not depend on others...Its good, but as a human being i think you are left alone. Its good to be strong in some aspects, but when this strength/ ego comes between relationships, its hard to maintain them...

No wonder divorce rates are so high...No wonder people do not want to marry..a live-in relationship is preferred, so that you can walk out, when things are not good (atleast you have not brought in God and committed to be soulmates in a relationshoip)

Its sad and i feel this society has to really learn a lot in terms of culture and family values...

Today i feel really blessed to have been born in India, where family values and religion is strong.

Cheers, Sonia Sodhi